"Of all the things I've lost, I miss my mind the most."-Mark Twain
Okay so I’m really fucking pissed right now, and here’s why.
I’m having a stressful, horrible day at uni. I’m dressed in a way that makes me feel good, because god damn do I need a little light in my day today. So yeah, I’m wearing a skirt, in case anyone wants to know. A skirt, stockings, shirt, ankle boots. I’m dressed for a warm day at uni.
I went over to my usual coffee haunt to get myself some fuel for the day and this guy walks over and stands behind me. I glance in the reflection of the fridge in case it’s someone I know, someone I want to say hi to.
This is a man I’ve never seen before in my life and he’s openly staring at my ass. Not just glancing, like, full on head tilt STARING at it. And then looks back up, looks around, STARES again.
Understandably, that makes me a little uncomfortable. Well, a lot uncomfortable actually. But when he does it for a third time? Oh I’m pissed now. Luckily, my coffee arrives and I leave the staring jerk where he stands but I was so close to turning around and asking him just what the fuck he thought he was staring at, and/or slapping him.
And then this.
TAKE IT AS A COMPLIMENT?!
ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME.
SOMEONE IS RUDE ENOUGH TO STARE AT ME IN A WAY THAT MAKES ME FEEL SEVERELY UNCOMFORTABLE AS THOUGH IT’S HIS RIGHT TO JUST FUCKING OBJECTIFY AND STARE AT A WOMAN LIKE THAT OR AT ANYONE’S BODY LIKE THAT AND I SHOULD TAKE THAT AS A MOTHERFUCKING COMPLIMENT?!
I DON’T FUCKING THINK SO.
I’VE ‘TAKEN IT AS A COMPLIMENT’ BEFORE AND DO YOU FUCKING KNOW WHAT THAT GOT ME? THAT GOT ME TO A POINT WHERE MEN DECIDED THAT AS A WOMAN I WASN’T GOING TO STAND UP FOR MYSELF AND THAT LEFT ME AS THE VICTIM OF SEXUAL ASSAULT BECAUSE I TOOK IT AS A COMPLIMENT THAT SOMEONE FOUND ME ATTRACTIVE.
SO NO FUCKING WAY SONNY JIM AM I TAKING IT AS A COMPLIMENT
HOW ABOUT I FUCKING STARE AT YOUR DICK NEXT TIME I’M WONDERING HOW IT MANAGES TO SIMULTANEOUSLY BE IN YOUR PANTS AND ON DISPLAY ON YOUR FOREHEAD, ASSHOLE.
I MEAN JESUS FUCKING CHRIST
IF SOMEONE DID THAT TO A GUY, THEY’D GET SO UNCOMFORTABLE ABOUT IT BUT WHEN I VOICE MY OWN DISCOMFORT CLEARLY THE COMPLIMENT OF A MAN STARING AT MY BODY OUTWEIGHS THE TRULY SCARY THOUGHT OF WHAT THAT COULD MEAN OR MY OWN RIGHT TO FEEL SECURE AND COMFORTABLE WHEN I’M JUST BUYING A GODDAMN COFFEE
AND YOU CAN BET YOUR SWEET ASS IF I SAID ANY OF THIS ON MY STATUS, I’D GET ACCUSED OF OVERREACTING, BEING A FEMI-NAZI, NEEDING TO RELAX.
AND FUCK TAKING IT AS A COMPLIMENT
I’M TAKING IT AS A SIGN THAT SOCIETY STILL DOESN’T HAVE THE RESPECT FOR WOMEN THAT IT REALLY SHOULD